👶 When I Was a Child… 👶 Open Thread

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Looking around this country today you wonder about the absence of adult voices.  There are a few scattered here and there but if they are in the majority it is a silent majority.

We all do silly childish things occasionally. That is all too human and forgivable. When it becomes a way of life it is repulsive.

Women prancing around in vagina costumes? Wearing pink “pussy” hats on their heads? Image result for childish behavior cartoon imagesWhat is the point of this? If it is to protest their lack of freedom it’s a massive failure. You are free in this country to make a total ass of yourself. These women took advantage of that right and rode it into absurdity.

Name-calling like children on a playground is bad enough when it is in the population where there are bound to be, among the millions, a few nitwits. But politicians and media types are among the worst offenders.

Our new president is an offender. The previous POTUS was simply an arrogant, narcissistic liar. This one is a silly tweeter who says stupid things that many of the people like because they want to get back at the left.

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Trump is often silly and childish but damn doesn’t it feel good to see him swat those arrogant, biased, liars in the media? Shame on me – I like it too. I’ll even admit it’s childish. However on a scale measuring that admission and some twit being seen in public dressed as a vagina I feel little shame.

Oops, is that moral equivalence? Image result for shame face emojiShame on me.

Moral equivalence is a form of equivocation and a fallacy of relevance often used in political debates. It seeks to draw comparisons between different, often unrelated things, to make a point that one is just as bad as the other or just as good as the other.

 Can You Spot 10 Signs of a Childish Adult?

How can you assess if an adult  functions emotionally more like a child?

10 Signs Therapists Note When They Assess Emotional Childishness or Maturity

1. Emotional escalations

Young children often cry, get mad, or look petulant and pouting.  Grownups seldom do.

2. Blaming

When things go wrong, young children look to blame someone.  Grownups look to fix the problem.

3. Lies

When there’s a situation that’s uncomfortable, young children might lie to stay out of trouble.  Grownups deal with reality, reliably speaking the truth.

4. Name-calling

Children call each other names.  Adults seek to understand issues.  Adults do not make ad hominen attacks, that is, attacks on people’s personal traits. Instead, they attack the problem.  They do not disrespect others with mean labels.

There is one exception.  Sometimes adults, like firefighters who battle forest fires, have to fight fire with fire.  They may need in some way to power over an angry child,  or an out-of-bounds adult, in order to get them to cease their bad behavior.  “Stop it!”

5. Impulsivity (or as therapists say, “poor impulse control“)

Children strike out impulsively when they feel hurt or mad. They speak recklessly or take impulsive action without pausing to think about the potential consequences.

Adults pause, resisting the impulse to shoot out hurtful words or actions.  They calm themselves.  They then think through the problem, seeking more information and analyzing options . Similarly, instead of listening to others’ viewpoints, they impulsively interrupt them.

Again, acting on impulse occasionally is a hallmark of mature behavior.  Soldiers and police are trained to discriminate rapidly between harmless and dangerous situations so that they can respond quickly enough to protect potential victims of criminal actions.

6. Need to be the center of attention

Ever tried to have adult dinner conversations with a two year old at the table?  Did attempts to launch a discussion with others at the table lead the child either to get fussy?

7. Bullying

A child who is physically larger than the other children his age can walk up to another boy who is playing with a toy he would like and simply take it.  The other child may say nothing lest the bully turn on them with hostility. Safer just to let a bully have what he wants?

8. Budding narcissism

In an earlier post I coined the term tall man syndrome for one way that narcissism can develop.  If you can get whatever you want because you are bigger, stronger, richer etc, you become at risk for learning that the rules don’t apply to you.  Whatever you want, you take.  It’s all about you.

Note that narcissistic attitudes may look initially like strength.  In fact, they reflect rigidity.

Psychologically strong people can tolerate listening to others.  Narcissists are emotionally brittle.  It’s my way or the highway, like a child who wants to stay out and play even though dinner is on the table and pitches a fit rather than heed his parent‘s explanation that the family is eating now.  It’s all about me; no one else counts; and if I don’t get my way I’ll bully you with anger or feel overwhelmed and pout.

9. Immature defenses

Freud coined the term defense mechanisms for ways in which individuals protect themselves and/or get what they want.  Adults use defense mechanisms like listening to others’ concerns as well as to their own and then problem-solving.  These responses to difficulties signal psychological maturity.

Children tend to regard the best defense as a strong offense.  While that defensive strategy may work in football, attacking anyone who something different from what they want is, in life, a primitive defense mechanism.

Another primitive defense is denial: “I didn’t say that!” “I never did that!” when in fact they did say and do that.  Sound child-like to you?  Sound like someone running for President?

10. No observing ego, that is, ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from their mistakes.

When emotionally mature adults ‘lose their cool’ and express anger inappropriately, they soon after, with their “observing ego,” realize that their outburst was inappropriate.  That is, they can see with hindsight that their behavior was out of line with their value system.  Their that it was, as therapists say “ego dystonic” (against their value system).

Children who have not yet internalized mature guidelines of respectful behavior toward others, or who have not developed ability to observe their behaviors to judge what’s in line and what’s out of line, see their anger as normal, as “ego syntonic” and justify it by blaming the other person.

The article above simply corroborated things I’ve seen and evaluated as childish or immature behavior. This behavior seems, at least to me, to be escalating.

Everything from college students needing puppies and coloring books to cope with life to grown men and women who are elected to represent us hurling insults at each other show a behavior pattern that we, as responsible adults should reject. And instead of applauding such behavior, no matter how good it feels, we should condemn it.

That isn’t easy. Payback is so satisfying.

 

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26 Responses to “👶 When I Was a Child… 👶 Open Thread”

  1. kenoshamarge Says:

  2. piper Says:

    Not sure what is happening – my lengthy last post is either lost somewhere or my computer has turned traitor.

    • kenoshamarge Says:

      Something funky going on this morning Piper. I don’t know what it is. The cartoon I posted in comments was supposed to go at the very end of my post but it would not go where I wanted it to go.

      Whatever is going on is beyond my ability to see thus far but I’ll keep looking. I know how frustrating it is when you write a detailed and lengthy comment only to have it go “poof.” Somehow you can never recapture the “feeling” of what you wrote the first time.

      I’ve had it happen to me so many times that when I remember I always copy it when I hit post just in case the computer is feeling like giving me a hard time.

      • piper Says:

        Just received this e-mail from a good friend which sums up what happened after 8 years of obama and his gub-er-mint.

        ‘I haven’t said too much about this election since the start….but this is how I feel….

        I’m noticing that a lot of people aren’t graciously accepting the fact that their candidate lost.

        In fact you seem to be posting even more hateful things about those who voted for Trump.

        Some are apparently “triggered” because they are posting how “sick” you feel about the results.

        How did this happen you ask? Well here is how it happened!

        You created “us” when you attacked our freedom of speech.

        You created “us” when you attacked our right to bear arms.

        You created “us” when you attacked our Christian beliefs.

        You created “us” when you constantly referred to us as racists.

        You created “us” when you constantly called us xenophobic.

        You created “us” when you told us to get on board or get out of the way.

        You created “us” when you attacked our flag.

        You created “us” when you took God out of our schools.

        You created “us” when you confused women’s rights with feminism.

        You created “us” when you began to emasculate men.

        You created “us” when you decided to make our children soft.

        You created “us” when you decided to vote for progressive ideals.

        You created “us” when you attacked our way of life.

        You created “us” when you decided to let our government get out of control.

        You created “us” the silent majority.

        You created “us” when you began murdering innocent law enforcement officers.

        You created “us” when you lied and said we could keep our insurance plans and our doctors.

        You created “us” when you allowed our jobs to continue to leave our country.

        You created “us” when you took a knee, or stayed seated or didn’t remove your hat during our National Anthem.

        You created “us” when you forced us to buy health care and then financially penalized us for not participating.

        And we became fed up and we pushed back and spoke up.

        And we did it with ballots, not bullets.

        With ballots, not riots.

        With ballots, not looting.

        With ballots, not blocking traffic.

        With ballots, not fires, except the one you started inside of “us”

        “YOU” created “US”.

        It really is just that simple.’

        • piper Says:

          Hopefully it will show up this time. I refuse to be paranoid but something or someone might be monitoring comments which would be truly a sad affront on our freedoms which we enjoy here.

          Thankfully, I posted this under my other alias on another site.

        • kenoshamarge Says:

          “YOU” created “US”

          Yes they did. And now the angry chickens are coming home to roost.

    • Rabble Rouser Reverend Amy Says:

      I’ve been having issues with my tablet today, too. Weird – my post for the weekend crashed half a dozen times, and Opera RARELY crashes. Well, it used to rarely crash, until this week. Yep, weird.

      • piper Says:

        Not only the internet but yahoo mail and landline. So rather than playing on my computer, I’m cleaning my house. I know it’s definitely not as much fun.

  3. piper Says:

    I knew it was too good to be true – it’s really February not April – the joke is on me – going to try out a road bike which just came into a fav. bike shop today. Hopefully the downpour of the early hours will abate for several more hours.

    • kenoshamarge Says:

      Brought this forward from the end of yesterday’s post just for you. Oh and love the Maxine cartoon!

      It was nice while it lasted but a cold front with rain, sleet, snow – well basically all the nastiness a Wisconsin winter can throw at you, is reportedly moving in.

      Thus far this winter most of this nastiness has gone to the north of our little Southeast corner of the state. Not wishing them ill – just wishing us well.

      Time to put the bike away Piper or do you think perhaps this too will pass? 😉

  4. kenoshamarge Says:

    Scott Walker Points to Wisconsin Model for Why Republicans Should Follow Through on Promises

    Gov. Scott Walker asked his fellow conservatives to follow through on the promises made to Americans, and used his home state of Wisconsin as evidence that this can be both successful and popular.

    “Do what you said you were going to do; to go big, to go bold, and to actually follow through on the promises you made throughout the campaign,” Walker said during a Thursday morning speaking event at the Conservative Political Action Conference, or CPAC, America’s largest annual conservative event.

    “My plea to you today is to not get caught up in Washington, to not forget the voters, to not ignore the people who live in reality all across this country,” he added.

    http://dailysignal.com/2017/02/23/scott-walker-points-to-wisconsin-model-for-why-republicans-should-follow-through-on-promises/

    • Rabble Rouser Reverend Amy Says:

      Well said, Gov. Walker. There is a reason why I wanted this man to be President…

      • kenoshamarge Says:

        Me too. He simply wasn’t entertaining enough for people. No pizazz. I thought a good workmanlike POTUS would be good for the country as a whole. I still do.

  5. kenoshamarge Says:

    This is why the left has worked so hard to control our schools:

  6. Rabble Rouser Reverend Amy Says:

    So, I wonder if Al Gore is going to include this in his latest spiel on Global Warming/Climate Change: http://www.dailywire.com/news/13817/scientists-we-know-what-really-causes-climate-james-barrett

    Yeah, I didn’t think so, either.

    Great post today, Marge. You are so spot on!

  7. kenoshamarge Says:

    CNN’s Cuomo: 12-Year-Old Girls Who Don’t Want To See Penises In Locker Rooms Are ‘The Problem,’ ‘Intolerant’

    Left-wing CNN Democrat Chris Cuomo took to Twitter on Thursday to call for “tolerance” from 12-year-old girls and other minors with respect to mentally ill males suffering from gender dysphoria.

    http://www.dailywire.com/news/13805/cuomo-tolerance-12-year-old-girls-see-penises-robert-kraychik

  8. mcnorman Says:

    These are tough times for all of us. The amount of manipulation that people have learned as okay behavior is over the top now. I suppose a lot of them haven’t learned that if you keep screeching about the sky falling at some point no one will believe you, right?
    One thing that I have learned in life is that at some point there comes a balance checker.

  9. kenoshamarge Says:

    David Harsanyi: If You Want Israeli-Palestinian Peace, Stop Talking About A ‘Two-State Solution’

    David Friedman, the new Israel ambassador (a position that doesn’t hold much sway over policy), has called Palestinian statehood an “illusion.” When grilled on the subject during his Senate hearings, he explained: “I have expressed my skepticism solely on the basis of my perception of the Palestinians’ failure to renounce terror and accept Israel as a Jewish state.” This would be an entirely accurate assessment.

    Yet this moral clarity has made Friedman unacceptable for many Democrats. New Jersey Democrat Sen. Robert Menendez, who sounded like some anti-Semitic McCarythite, went as far as demanding Friedman assure the committee his loyalty to the United States.

    http://thefederalist.com/2017/02/24/if-you-want-peace-stop-talking-about-a-two-state-solution/

  10. kenoshamarge Says:

    • mcnorman Says:

      The choice was made. Choices have consequences. Well, atleast that is what you and I were taught. In the age Obama however those consequences were marginalized.

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